I used to be very sceptical when someone told me that time will really heals everything. I think people who said that are just people who are tired of hearing my complains and my whining and all the things that they are so sick of hearing from me, so they choose to calm me down by saying that 'magical-wise-word', but it didn't work for me.
I find some part of myself is a drama when it comes to something that i don't like. You know when things don't go my way, i don't accept them right away. I question everything and i think about it all time until i finally getting to the point of feeling, okay, this is how life works. Things dont't always go my way and that's natural, we can't force thing to be happen, period.
Okay.
But it's a bit difficult here. Imagined if you worked hard to build a house from zero, from the very empty ground and you started putting your first cement yourself, and your second, your third, and you painted it, you planted flowers on the yard to make it looking pretty, you sweep the house every morning and you clean up every night before bed, you treated the house very nicely and unexpectedly, someone came and burn it. It burned. Everything i have inside the house burned to dust. I have nothing left right after.
So i was sad. I don't have 'house' to live in and i have nothing left by myself. That's the time when people came up to me telling me that time will heals. How can i even trust their words when they don't even know what i was feeling? I doubted them.
Days by days, months by months passed,
I started feeling better. I started to think clear and telling myself that everything is happen for a reason, and out of nowhere i started to believe that if something is taken from us, either we didn't take a good care of it or that thing itself just don't wanna be with us anymore. As simple as that. And i'm pretty sure that if we lost something, God will replace it with something better. And i believed that.
And that magical wise word, proven true.
I guess nobody wants to live miserably the whole time crying over the past and regret why things didn't go the way they wanted to. And ofcourse i don't want too. I have a brighter future awaits out there that i need to face. And, whatever left from the old 'house' became a memory that i don't need to keep in my new 'house'..
Rabu, 27 November 2013
Senin, 30 September 2013
Kamis, 26 September 2013
When We Talk About Compliment
"To get compliments for me is not something that we seek, it's something that we earn. "
Yesterday i was MC-ing for International Multifaith Youth Assembly 2013 that happened to be take place in Makassar, this year. So i felt lucky to be trusted hosting an International Event that attended by Vice Ministers, important people from Embassy and foreign participants that flew all the way their countries to gather here with one vision : creating peace throughout the world by realizing new paradigm of peace, One Family under God.
As i was hosting the event with English, as well known as a universal languange, i know myself that i am far from perfection. I can speak, i can write, but if i asked to speak formally, gramatically perfect, i can say, that's not my daily thing. But you know, at some point we got to get ourselves out from our comfort zone in order to learn, right?
So i asked the comitee director to teach me how, she taught me a lot and i felt confidence enough.
Then i walked to the stage, see the crowded, see the beauty of the diversity among the participants, and i felt so, confident, somehow.
The event ran perfectly, i felt relieved.
You know that feeling when you know yourself just did a good job and people agreed with what you think so they tell you the same thing?
That feeling. Is. Precious.
I've been hosting a lot of event but somehow i find this one quite different and challenging at the same time.
But at the end, Malaysian participant, Afghanistan, and some others came to me say that i should fly more and learn more abroad, because they told me that i got International quality already.
I don't know if i'm a bit exaggerating this but i feel just great to be told something really, really mean to me like that.
And by that i realize that in life we need to get ourselves some compliment in order to grow, in order to respect ourselves and to believe ourselves. Not to be arrogant about it, but be blessed instead.
Then i randomly pick some compliment pieces that i got from my friends a year ago. I read them one by one, and i feel simply recharged. So i guess it's true, the strongest power comes within, we just need to always remember about it.
Yesterday i was MC-ing for International Multifaith Youth Assembly 2013 that happened to be take place in Makassar, this year. So i felt lucky to be trusted hosting an International Event that attended by Vice Ministers, important people from Embassy and foreign participants that flew all the way their countries to gather here with one vision : creating peace throughout the world by realizing new paradigm of peace, One Family under God.
As i was hosting the event with English, as well known as a universal languange, i know myself that i am far from perfection. I can speak, i can write, but if i asked to speak formally, gramatically perfect, i can say, that's not my daily thing. But you know, at some point we got to get ourselves out from our comfort zone in order to learn, right?
So i asked the comitee director to teach me how, she taught me a lot and i felt confidence enough.
Then i walked to the stage, see the crowded, see the beauty of the diversity among the participants, and i felt so, confident, somehow.
The event ran perfectly, i felt relieved.
You know that feeling when you know yourself just did a good job and people agreed with what you think so they tell you the same thing?
That feeling. Is. Precious.
I've been hosting a lot of event but somehow i find this one quite different and challenging at the same time.
But at the end, Malaysian participant, Afghanistan, and some others came to me say that i should fly more and learn more abroad, because they told me that i got International quality already.
I don't know if i'm a bit exaggerating this but i feel just great to be told something really, really mean to me like that.
And by that i realize that in life we need to get ourselves some compliment in order to grow, in order to respect ourselves and to believe ourselves. Not to be arrogant about it, but be blessed instead.
Then i randomly pick some compliment pieces that i got from my friends a year ago. I read them one by one, and i feel simply recharged. So i guess it's true, the strongest power comes within, we just need to always remember about it.
Isn't it good to have a flashback or reminder about what we can do and how precious we are in earth actually?
Rabu, 11 September 2013
Happy Reminder
-"Be so happy that when people look at you, they become happy too!"
-"Whatever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy"
-"If you're happy and feeling good, then nothing else matters"
-"Happiness is a habit. Cultivate it"
-"Think happy, be happy"
-"Being happy never goes out of style"
-Life is too short to not be happy"
Society Circles, Who Are Those?
Few weeks ago i was attending a seminar about youth and political knowledge in Indonesia. One of the speaker at that time was Rene CC, a public speaker and an author of CC Book and UltimateU. If you ever heard about the book, Your Job is Not Your Career yes he is the author as well. Somehow i find this man really interesting! He sends an energetic and exciting vibes to us, the attendants. Since the goal of the seminar was to educate youth about political knowledge, he told us some interesting fact about Indonesia in the past.
FYI the seminar held not so far from August 17, the Independence day of Indonesia. So he revelead some interesting fact about our Proclamation. Firstly he explained how the proclamation was finally decided to be proclaimed, the people behind, and how Soekarno at that time already believed in the power of youth already. If you ever remember that he once said "Berikan saya sepuluh pemuda, maka akan kurubah dunia" / "Give me ten youths then i will change the world". Agree so far? I do. As i said that he revealed interesting fact that, turns out the attendants of our proclamation was 80-90% youths in the average age of 17-25. So we can imagine ourselves were there, in our age right now. At least if we happen to imagine our soul were there, such a proud feeling.
At the end of the slides, i got the chance to ask him question. Since i admire his energetic and positive mood all the way, i just simply ask him about how he keep that all the time, cause i know being positive and energetic will obviously influence other people around. And i asked him again, how to start making the change, at least from ourselves? I know i asked such an overrated question but i just wanna hear the answer from this guy.
So he answered, to be positive and have a happy minded, is to be bless with what we have, never compare ourselves to others, and you know, be funny. When you're funny, everybody wants to around you because you send a positive vibes to others. The rest you just simply need to plant positivity in your heart and mind, Meilia. Simple. (noted).
The second question, he answered, If you wanna make a change, start from your circle. Do you think your circles are good enough? Supportive enough for you to keep you on going? Think about that. You know in life, we have so many society circle that we had. Family circle, bestfriend, boyfriend/girlfriend, organization, relatives, etc. Have you found which circle give you such a positive impact? You already know which one, and which is not really good for you either. And then, you have this one circle that you have been on so many years, consider this as your bestfriend circle. Your hangout buddies circle. You've been with those guys for good and bad, tears and joy, rich and poor and everything. But wait, what else? Instead of hanging out have some coffee and share stories, did you guys ever share about the same interest with education, learnings, motivations, goals instead of sharing what brands of bags are in right now? Think. If you haven't or you don't do that at all, perhaps, that circle is the one that might stops you from going further.
Now start open up yourself to a new circle, like, organization, conference, voluntering, etc. That time when you start involving yourself in such activities those circles are having, you'll finally realized that you actually can do so much more in your life. And what so important, you can be useful for others and that's very precious.
He said, when you feel like your idea of living of creating something in your mind doesn't match with the people in your circle anymore, leave the circle for a moment. Because you're way more than them already, you're thinking few steps ahead while they stuck there. You need to find yourself a space to learn and share laernings to other people. Meet new people, explore the living, gain knowledge because remember you only young once so don't spend it not doing anything. Make the best out of it.
I agreed. I involve myself in volunteering activity already actually, organization and signing up for several conference, being busy filling essays and just stay in front of my computer pretty while seeking for opportunities that life offers, ignoring some coffee hours with my friends for a while indeed, and, i, feel good :)
FYI the seminar held not so far from August 17, the Independence day of Indonesia. So he revelead some interesting fact about our Proclamation. Firstly he explained how the proclamation was finally decided to be proclaimed, the people behind, and how Soekarno at that time already believed in the power of youth already. If you ever remember that he once said "Berikan saya sepuluh pemuda, maka akan kurubah dunia" / "Give me ten youths then i will change the world". Agree so far? I do. As i said that he revealed interesting fact that, turns out the attendants of our proclamation was 80-90% youths in the average age of 17-25. So we can imagine ourselves were there, in our age right now. At least if we happen to imagine our soul were there, such a proud feeling.
At the end of the slides, i got the chance to ask him question. Since i admire his energetic and positive mood all the way, i just simply ask him about how he keep that all the time, cause i know being positive and energetic will obviously influence other people around. And i asked him again, how to start making the change, at least from ourselves? I know i asked such an overrated question but i just wanna hear the answer from this guy.
So he answered, to be positive and have a happy minded, is to be bless with what we have, never compare ourselves to others, and you know, be funny. When you're funny, everybody wants to around you because you send a positive vibes to others. The rest you just simply need to plant positivity in your heart and mind, Meilia. Simple. (noted).
The second question, he answered, If you wanna make a change, start from your circle. Do you think your circles are good enough? Supportive enough for you to keep you on going? Think about that. You know in life, we have so many society circle that we had. Family circle, bestfriend, boyfriend/girlfriend, organization, relatives, etc. Have you found which circle give you such a positive impact? You already know which one, and which is not really good for you either. And then, you have this one circle that you have been on so many years, consider this as your bestfriend circle. Your hangout buddies circle. You've been with those guys for good and bad, tears and joy, rich and poor and everything. But wait, what else? Instead of hanging out have some coffee and share stories, did you guys ever share about the same interest with education, learnings, motivations, goals instead of sharing what brands of bags are in right now? Think. If you haven't or you don't do that at all, perhaps, that circle is the one that might stops you from going further.
Now start open up yourself to a new circle, like, organization, conference, voluntering, etc. That time when you start involving yourself in such activities those circles are having, you'll finally realized that you actually can do so much more in your life. And what so important, you can be useful for others and that's very precious.
He said, when you feel like your idea of living of creating something in your mind doesn't match with the people in your circle anymore, leave the circle for a moment. Because you're way more than them already, you're thinking few steps ahead while they stuck there. You need to find yourself a space to learn and share laernings to other people. Meet new people, explore the living, gain knowledge because remember you only young once so don't spend it not doing anything. Make the best out of it.
I agreed. I involve myself in volunteering activity already actually, organization and signing up for several conference, being busy filling essays and just stay in front of my computer pretty while seeking for opportunities that life offers, ignoring some coffee hours with my friends for a while indeed, and, i, feel good :)
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