Happy Reminder

-"Be so happy that when people look at you, they become happy too!"

-"Whatever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy"

                  -"If you're happy and feeling good, then nothing else matters"

-"Happiness is a habit. Cultivate it"

                                                                                      -"Think happy, be happy"

-"Being happy never goes out of style"

                                                             -Life is too short to not be happy"

My Inspirational Scrapbook

Society Circles, Who Are Those?

Few weeks ago i was attending a seminar about youth and political knowledge in Indonesia. One of the speaker at that time was Rene CC, a public speaker and an author of CC Book and UltimateU. If you ever heard about the book, Your Job is Not Your Career yes he is the author as well. Somehow i find this man really interesting! He sends an energetic and exciting vibes to us, the attendants. Since the goal of the seminar was to educate youth about political knowledge, he told us some interesting fact about Indonesia in the past. 

FYI the seminar held not so far from August 17, the Independence day of Indonesia. So he revelead some interesting fact about our Proclamation. Firstly he explained how the proclamation was finally decided to be proclaimed, the people behind, and how Soekarno at that time already believed in the power of youth already. If you ever remember that he once said "Berikan saya sepuluh pemuda, maka akan kurubah dunia" / "Give me ten youths then i will change the world". Agree so far? I do. As i said that he revealed interesting fact that, turns out the attendants of our proclamation was 80-90% youths in the average age of 17-25. So we can imagine ourselves were there, in our age right now. At least if we happen to imagine our soul were there, such a proud feeling. 

At the end of the slides, i got the chance to ask him question. Since i admire his energetic and positive mood all the way, i just simply ask him about how he keep that all the time, cause i know being positive and energetic will obviously influence other people around. And i asked him again, how to start making the change, at least from ourselves? I know i asked such an overrated question but i just wanna hear the answer from this guy. 

So he answered, to be positive and have a happy minded, is to be bless with what we have, never compare ourselves to others, and you know, be funny. When you're funny, everybody wants to around you because you send a positive vibes to others. The rest you just simply need to plant positivity in your heart and mind, Meilia. Simple. (noted).

The second question, he answered, If you wanna make a change, start from your circle. Do you think your circles are good enough? Supportive enough for you to keep you on going? Think about that. You know in life, we have so many society circle that we had. Family circle, bestfriend, boyfriend/girlfriend, organization, relatives, etc. Have you found which circle give you such a positive impact? You already know which one, and which is not really good for you either. And then, you have this one circle that you have been on so many years, consider this as your bestfriend circle. Your hangout buddies circle. You've been with those guys for good and bad, tears and joy, rich and poor and everything. But wait, what else? Instead of hanging out have some coffee and share stories, did you guys ever share about the same interest with education, learnings, motivations, goals instead of sharing what brands of bags are in right now? Think. If you haven't or you don't do that at all, perhaps, that circle is the one that might stops you from going further. 

Now start open up yourself to a new circle, like, organization, conference, voluntering, etc. That time when you start involving yourself in such activities those circles are having, you'll finally realized that you actually can do so much more in your life. And what so important, you can be useful for others and that's very precious. 

He said, when you feel like your idea of living of creating something in your mind doesn't match with the people in your circle anymore, leave the circle for a moment. Because you're way more than them already, you're thinking few steps ahead while they stuck there. You need to find yourself a space to learn and share laernings to other people. Meet new people, explore the living, gain knowledge because remember you only young once so don't spend it not doing anything. Make the best out of it. 

I agreed. I involve myself in volunteering activity already actually, organization and signing up for several conference, being busy filling essays and just stay in front of my computer pretty while seeking for opportunities that life offers, ignoring some coffee hours with my friends for a while indeed, and, i,  feel good :) 

Count Your Blessings

 

Today my day was simply amazing just by spending it alone at home. I lately have not so much thing to do i just enjoy my times at home. You know sometimes when you have much time and got nothing to do, you start wondering things, like you know, anything that could be? 

I surf the internet pretty much, seeing people's Instagram and found picture that opened up my eyes about how bless and happy our life actually can be. If we just think bout it, and count our blessings, i bet you'll realize that blessings can't be count, cause it comes every second, every breath, every wink, all the time. Happiness is simple. Think about it. I am happy now, and i think, why shouldn't i be happy?

 Here are the list of things that make me feel happy : 

1. I am breathing right now. 

2. I had a good time pampering myself at home today. 

3. Yesterday i got called and being told that i got to be recommended to be MC for some International Youth Assembly 

4. I ate Martabak a lot. 

5. I opened up my wallet and i see i got enough savings until the weekends 

6. I watched my favorite TV Show, Masterchef. 

7. I'm currently listening to John Mayer. 

8. I just took my medicine. 

9. I got stable internet connection, writing this, enjoying every single word i write. 

See? Isn't it simple? :)

Teaser : Fira & Syahrial

 Been working on this pre wedding shots lately, these are some behind the screen stuffs and, the teaser :)

 

The Choices Are : To Be Happy and, To Just Be Happy.

 (pict taken from Tumblr)

I think i have come to the realization that in life, we actually have so many things out there to explore if we want to get out from our comfort zone and, move. As simple as i was doing a karaoke yesterday for approximately 4 hours (if you can imagine how terrible my voice now is) i gotten my head opened just by enjoying every single song that i sang, reading every beautiful lyrics carefully, drinking my lemon tea like it was tasted sweet, you know, having to enjoy my life like i haven't done for so long. I am happy and realized that the world is, WIDE. 

Repeat : I am happy. 

And i know, life doesn't stop for anybody. 

So, heartbreaks, dissapointments, anger, betrays are a part of life that we are indeed gotta be in, in someways, but that is fine. Thought life is about ups and downs, we all know that. 

I learned. 

I learned that 'nothing last forever' is proven true.

It doesn't matter how long you've been with each other, how many years, how many quality times that you had, how many holidays that you spent together, how many fights, how many make ups, how many hugs, how many kisses, how many laughs, how many pictures captured the togetherness, how many miles we have been through, how many dollars that we spent to see each other in every spare time we had, how many flights (include how many missed flight and cancelled flight), how many midnight-morning calls, how many chats, how much happiness, tears, joy, blessings, how many 'hello' and 'goodbyes', how many gifts that we gave each others, how many journeys that we went together, how much love that once shared, 

Nothing is last forever anyways. 

And as long as you don't stuck on what's left behind and keep moving forward instead, you're gotta be fine. 
When you lose someone in your life, just remember that perhaps, there's not enough space in your heart to keep all the people stay there, so,

You lose some, you'll gain some. 

Don't stuck your mind on what hurts, from what hurts, you learn.
From what's saddening your mind, you learn to be strong. 
Even if you're sad, it won't last forever.

So why not choose to be happy instead? 

Have You (Really) Grown Up?

What is exactly the meaning of growing up?

Does it means to start differentiate which one is good or which one is bad, to be legal to drink alcohol, to be able to go out with friends until midnight and having to put make up on our faces already because we start being aware with our appearances cause that's when we start falling in love?

That's?

When i was a little girl i always wanted to be a grown up. Seeing my mom going to her office wearing her perfect suites, high heels on, make up and lipstick, that was my dream. I can't wait to be a grown up so my parents would let me go out with my friends just like my cousins did with their friends. I always wanted to be able to drive car by myself and putting cool musics on and just, act cool inside the car.  Always wondered when will i start wearing senior high school uniform and start dating a guy just like in a movie. Then again i started wondering when will i enter university and start acting like a real grown ups. And so on, and so on.

I used to think that to be a grown up was just to look good and to behave like a grown ups.

Never thought it would be this hard complex.

When we start being a real grown ups, life becomes full of complexity. Either the complexity are actually made by our own mind or indeed sometimes life and everything in it are so complex.

Growing up can be different meaning for each person since we live our lives differently.

When i said that when we grow up life becomes more complex, if i had to define what i meant about complexity is, that when everythings are mixed up as one, either differences, problems, even love sometimes.

As we grow up, we learn that sometimes things not go as the way that we wanted them to be, we learn that in life there are so many things, so many people, so many thoughts that sometimes no matter we like it or not, we just had to deal with. We learn to accept differences, we've taught about pressures, we learn everything from what we see, what we read, what we hear.


How do i measure my maturity level? By admit that i am now 22 years old and i've got myself considered as a grown up?

I think.. (and based on what i read)

•  We have grown up when we have our way of thinking and we can have our thoughts. We care what we care, we care what others think about us, but most importantly we care we what we think we are best. 

•  We have grown up when we can accept people's opinion wisely instead of getting angry for what we don't agree. We learn to appreciate people because that is how life works.

•   We have grown up when we start differentiate what's good and what's best for ourselves. Not in general, but more for ourselves. We learn to be responsible for every action that we take. 

•  We have grown up when we think, before we act. When we taste our mouth before we spit it out. 

•  We have grown up when we make mistakes and learn from it instead of making the same mistake happens for twice. 

•   We have grown up when we can accept that life is not only bout sweetness, but pain is a part of it too. You might cry and ask why pain coming to you but afterall you think and try to understand what caused the pain and learn from it instead. 

•  We  have grown up when we start acting wiser instead of being selfish. Remember that world is so wide and it's not only us living on it. 

•  We have grown up when we don't hold a grudge. Thinking that when someone hurt you, you gotta hurt them back is just like going around the same wheels over and over again. 

•  We have grown up when we start being able to control our emotions and not being controlled by our emotions. 

•   We have grown up when we can accept every facts in this world. No matter how hard it is. Like, we gotta learn to accept the fact that we all are going to die, someone we love might leave us, something we like might lost and so on. Life can be so bitter sometimes and we just have to deal with it. 

• We have grown up when we learn about love. When we learn that love is something so precious. When we are happy being in love. When we are okay loving someone and not having them love us back cause we know that real love is not demanding. When we are happy seeing the person that we love being happy. When we learn that love is something so sincere and so pure that comes within. When we realize that love is not hurting cause we are not expecting anything from love. Cause we just simply loving without expecting anything. When we don't get hurt cause nothing to get hurted about. Cause we learn about how wonderful love is. Love, is, love. 

•   We have grown up when we understand about life and values. Not about money, but, life values.

Those, some thoughts about how grown ups are actually perhaps live their lifes.


And if i had to be asked but how i think myself, i questioned myself about expectations. I questioned myself a lot about love. I questioned how i was so easy writing that love is not expecting anything in return when me myself expecting so much in return till i get hurt? I questioned my feeling.

I wish i could be a real grown up that i can accept every facts that happens in my world.
I wish i could grow my thoughts and my mind to be more enlighten.
I wish i could learn more about what i have wrote.
I wish i could start loving without expecting anything in return, cause that's how real love works.
I wish my life for the best.